Is School Really Working for Your Child?
If your child is losing their love of learning or their spirit is being crushed by meaningless tests, the drudgery of homework, or abusive authority, how long can you pretend all is well? Schools are broken and falling further behind as the world changes more quickly than they can adapt.
Most of the “learning disabilities” diagnosed today are a direct product of a school system treating children like they are machines to passively absorb programming instead of active, living, creative beings with their own path to tread. A broken system saddles children with labels to mask its own failure and ineffectiveness, which they live with for the rest of their lives.
The problems even spill over from the classroom into home life. Parents are supposed to be enforcers on their behalf, frowning on poor grades and bribing them for good performance. Why should you spend your precious time with them nagging about homework? Or doing it for them?
School shouldn’t be a punishment – childhood isn’t a crime. A school’s job should be to adapt to your child’s learning needs, not to bend your child into the mold of an obedient, unthinking drone.
It’s time to try a place which nourishes children’s hungry minds and heals their energetic spirits.
It is a powerful thing we do in asking parents to take this leap of faith in trusting themselves to step outside the box of a dysfunctional educational system and extend that faith further to actually trusting their children. Just making this choice… this leap… can be life-changing. It certainly alters the fabric of relationship within a family. And most importantly, the children immediately start learning they can trust themselves -- a lesson many adults have still been denied.
Some Reasons to Trust
We focused on the leap of faith without giving reasons because that’s fundamentally the emotional shift parents have to make. However, everyone likes to explain themselves in sensible ways to others, so here are just a few of the reasons that it is smart to trust the child to be in the driver’s seat of their education:
You can’t learn to make good decisions if you’re never allowed to make your own decisions.
Children learn better when they’re doing things they’re actually interested in.
Forcing kids to do things compromises their trust in you (as well as in themselves) and establishes an adversarial relationship.
The best way to learn to trust yourself, if by being granted the gift of trust …
Committing to trust your children creates powerful mutual respect and mutual trust.
Kids still choose, you’ve just narrowed their choices to: “Do what you’re told” or “Get in trouble.” Some discover they have another option: “Agree to do what I’m told, then try to get away with doing something else.” (Lie about it.) Is that the kind of decision making you want them to spend their childhood practicing?
By practicing self-direction, children learn greater responsibility. Complete responsibility.
You don’t learn to drive by being told or reading books about it, you have to actually get in the driver’s seat.
Following their authentic interests makes them better attuned to their passions and hones their ability to listen for their deeper purpose.